Use FAIRY Dust to Make Anything Happen

You know to use LOA with the big stuff, like creating wealth and relationships, ...

... but how can you harness it for the little stuff? A great life is a string of great little stuff. The dailies are the things that support life. They're also the things that, when unattended, make life miserable. These are the things like cleaning the kitchen, sorting mail, catching up on TMZ.com.

You can create a great life one thing at a time using a little FAIRY dust. I created a corny system to help you remember how to create the life you crave. I'll show you how it works on a short cleaning project. Its elements can be adapted for any length project such as writing a book or planning a vacation.

F: Pick a feeling state. What do you want to feel when you do this thing? That's what we're after when we crave activities and changes. For example, if you want your kitchen clean, what do you want to feel when it's finished? Do things to increase that feeling before the project is done.

A: Assess your options for getting the job done. Dishes first, mail later? Left to right? Screw it and read a magazine?

I: Be very intentional with what you want to happen. Don't lie to yourself. You can tell if you're lying if your thought starts with “should”: I should really clean this. He should have cleaned this Tuesday! Make your intention short--1 or 2 sentences is plenty. I intend to load the dishwasher, sweep the floor and sort through the mail. Making it concrete reminds you what your plan is. Write it on a post-it and stick it where you'll see it.

R: Relax. Before you get started, actively practice relaxing. Laughing is a super potent relaxation device. It's infectious, like yawning, so if you watch any video on YouTube of someone laughing hysterically, you'll laugh along with it. It's almost cheating, but it works, so who cares?

Y: Yield to the easiest path. What is the most ridiculously easy thing you can do in the kitchen? Start there. The highest road is the easiest one. Getting started will build momentum. Move from the easiest thing to the next easiest thing until you're finished.

Et voila. Your kitchen is clean. More importantly, you are happy.

I'll show you how I applied that to this article.

I had the idea for what I wanted to write, but I wasn't married to it. I was flexible about changing it if necessary. I evaluated it and got focused using my FAIRY system.

F: This is what I typed at the top of my document:When I'm finished, I want to feel proud and clear. I want to know I contributed and that this will help someone.

A: I made a list of what I could cover when communicating this message. I laid out the FAIRY pieces and considered a few examples for illustration.

I: I wrote specific directions for myself to help me stay focused. I intend to write the very best draft I can, knowing I can go back later and edit as necessary.

R: I went to YouTube and searched “laughing baby” and watched this video of twins laughing at each other. I laughed out loud, because laughing is contagious and I can't help it. I also thought of my sweet baby, Max, and that raised my spirit even more.

Y: I decided to write the easiest part first so I laid out the FAIRY steps. I then filled in with examples and added the beginning and ending.

Easy peasy. Now you do it. If yielding to the easiest path means you need help, get some. Go forth and do good. Have fun. Be the shiny soul that you are.

Sarah Wagner Yost is a mind-body life coach. She runs the Shiny Object Project School. If you can't get “your thing” done, she can help. You can find her at www.sarahwagneryost.com. Working with her is better than Valium.